I heard a great coaching question shared at the Asia-Pacific Coaching conference in Singapore, “What is interfering with what you want right now?”
You can apply this question to anything you want. What is interfering with your success? What is interfering with your happiness? What is interfering with your dream?
When you look at your answers, how many are based in blaming something you have no control over, such as the economy, someone’s personality or their conflicting desires, or your manager’s or potential client’s inability to know what is right for them? Maybe your interference is about a past circumstance that is long gone.
You can’t make these situations go away no matter how much you practice optimism. You can’t stop them from interfering with your plans, but you can stop them from creating unnecessary static that keeps you from hearing the truth about the options you are able to take.
The only thing you can do with outside interference is to accept it or quiet it. What is stopping you from accepting the uncertainty of our times as the normal, crazy flow of life? What is stopping you from accepting that some people (including your life partners) will never have some of the same desires as you? What is stopping you from accepting that even though you are right, you have to change your message for others to hear the gems you have to share?
Interference occurs when something impedes, crowds out, garbles, or distracts us from seeing or moving in a certain direction. You might not be able to remove the interference, but you can decrease its impact or, by accepting its existence, find a way to work around or with it.
What is interfering with your success, happiness or dreams? Can you quiet the interference or find a way to work around or with it? If so, you are also taking steps for dealing with the internal interference you generate with your own chatty brain.