Two years ago, I was watching a well-known speaker talk about the difference between men and women. He said that throughout their lives, men shift their focus from career to intimacy as they age. Women focus first on intimacy, then on career. I said, “Not the women I know.”
That’s when I decided to do my dissertation on the current generation of high-achieving women, specifically looking at what personal factors serve or frustrate their aspirations.
I was right. There’s a new generation of women in the workplace. They grew up in the self-help era so they are more confident and bold than most of the women who came before them. They engaged in competitive sports at school, giving them a sense of physical as well as mental strength. They have advanced and professional degrees.
At work, they want frequent new challenges. They love being busy and hate feeling bored. They want to be valued, respected and recognized and will work hard to deserve this. Yet they struggle when they feel pigeon-holed, underutilized, micro-managed, slowed down, and ignored.
What I found most interesting was how these women are redefining their relationships. Of the women I surveyed, 95% of those married or living with someone either made the same amount of money or more than their partners. They weren’t looking for a man to take care of them; they desired someone who would be their life partner, sharing in all the responsibilities, be it child-rearing or taking out the garbage.
When I shared these facts with the women I surveyed, many of them asked if they could meet the other women. They didn’t realize so many other women felt like them. They often felt like they were the only ones who worked so hard and cared so much at work. Wouldn’t it be great if they could share their thoughts, dreams, frustrations and victories?
So I created this Blog.
One of the first papers I wrote in graduate schools was called, “The Burden of Greatness” where I looked at the light and dark side of having a strong drive for achievement. So I created this Blog where women who are driven to achieve can meet, share ideas, rant, dream and learn. Please post your comments and insights, and send me articles. I will share with you my research to increase your self-awareness, and tips to help you get what you most desire in your life.
This is your site. It is a place to come home. You deserve it.