There was a great scene in Grey’s Anatomy last night that I thought characterized the changes many women are experiencing. With no real guidance, and under the threat of losing love, we are starting to say “NO” to giving ourselves away, including our power, our energy, and our passion. Yet, this isn’t easy.
The scene focused on Christina Yang telling her boyfriend about her near-marriage experience. She described her relationship as a process of giving herself away to him, piece by piece. In tears, she says to her current lover, “That will never happen again.”
With little guidance, we are starting to figure out how to say no to giving ourselves away and molding our lives into what others want for us. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always feel good. We may loose people and jobs we love in the process. Hopefully, we then come to love ourselves.