I just received a rejection notice. I applied to be on the board of a professional association. They turned me down.
Part of me was disappointed, embarrassed, angry, and even worried. The rest of me was utterly relieved. Woo hoo!
While interviewing women for my book, Wander Women, I had a very accomplished woman tell me, “All my life I was taught to raise my hand. Now I’m finally questioning what I’m raising my hand for.”
I do like serving my associations that have given so much to me in the form of education and networking. I have to admit, I also like the attention and prestige I get for holding leadership positions. Yet in meeting my needs, I haven’t done a good job of weighing the costs. Fame can be fatiguing.
In Gone with the Wind, Rhett Butler told Scarlett, “Until you’ve lost your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was or what freedom really is.”
What titles, positions, and roles do you hold onto because you are afraid you won’t be credible without them? What tasks have you taken on that you have come to regret because of the drain on your time and energy?
It’s time we tell the truth about what we are raising our hands for, and create more space for work that is more fulfilling and freeing.
Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction will be released June 15th. Stay tuned for more information.