I have a friend who’s relationship was rocky for years. She is a powerful executive coach who is asked to speak on leadership world-wide. When she met her boyfriend, he was the marketing VP for a well-known global corporation. During their relationship, he moved on to creating his own consultancy. Their travels and changes in their lives made for a bumpy relationship.
Once, while visiting my friend, we made a quick stop at her boyfriend’s to give him something. They had broken up for the upteenth time. I know the stop was a way for her to see him, so I busied myself looking at pictures in his hallway while they talked.
I the middle of their hushed argument, my friend blurted out, “You have no idea how much I need you.”
After a long moment of silence, he said, “I would have never known.”
The happy ending…that conversation led to them getting back together. They are now married.
This was an incredible lesson for me. We strong women often feel we need to tough it out on our own. We forget to give others the gift of letting them help us. Do you ever withdraw from others or reject suggestions and offers of help from the people you love?
What will it take for you to open your arms and accept help or allow yourself to be comforted?
Vulnerability is a strength. It allows us all to connect and heal together. When times are tough, we all need to put our arms around each other so we can rise up as one, even more powerful than we can by ourselves.