Generally when I realize my speaking style is different from the person I am with, I teach them how to listen to me. Teaching is easier than trying to change my style.
I am a verbal processor. I tend to lay out the foundation for my thoughts before I announce my conclusion. I don’t ramble as much as I used to, but I want you to know what led to my perspective so we both understand what I’m talking about.
This isn’t working so well anymore, especially in my writing. I might be able to engage you face-to-face with my delivery. On paper, I lose you way too quickly. It’s time I lay out my point up front, clearly and concisely.
I witnessed this last week when Huffington posted my article on whether or not women are retreating in life. My title was Women Who Don’t Give Up. Before posting the article, the Huffington editors changed the title to Yoga and Homemaking: The New Future of Women?
I didn’t think the title was as misleading as it turned out to be. My entire premise was to say that although women might like yoga and homemaking, most were not retreating to these as a way of life. After linking to an article that inferred they were, I went on to talk about the women I know who are embracing their grand adventure of life wholeheartedly.
If you look at the comments, you’ll see most of them think I was putting down yoga and homemaking.
So whose fault is it that they missed the point?
There is not much I can do about the shrinking attention span. Concentration drifts after a paragraph or two. Then if readers stay with the article, most shift to reading just the first line of each paragraph to get to the end. Nicholas Carr said, “Once I was a scuba diver in the sea of words. Now I zip along the surface like a guy on a Jet Ski.”
Right or wrong, this is the truth. I’m guilty of skimming and “power browsing” myself. I haven’t read an entire book for a year.
So I have made a promise to myself, and you, to get to the point sooner and leave the foundation, and the entertainment, for later just in case you want to take a break to go deeper in thought with me.
Then if we get the glorious moment to meet live like I had the opportunity to do this week with two women I met through social media, we can ramble to our hearts content.
If you stayed with me to the end of this post, I would love to hear your point of view on this phenomenon.