Creating a great experience can be the worst thing you do for yourself.
I just spent two days as emcee of an amazing workshop for authors. I co-chaired the event which means I have been working on it for a year. Then I was so wrapped up in making sure the experience was perfect that I forgot I was also a participant who was there to enjoy the day.
I remember thinking this after my wedding years ago. I wanted the event to be “just right.” this focus took me away from the moment and the joy of the experience. My memories are a blur and unemotional.
When you feel responsible for an event, whether it’s as big as a conference or as small as a gathering of friends, do you get so wrapped up in making sure it is perfect that you forget to be present? What do you do to find moments to enjoy what is going on?
At the women’s conference in Trinidad, I kept telling the organizer, Giselle, “Breathe and soak in the moment. Your work is already done.” She thanked me for the reminder.
So why didn’t I heed my own advice? After my event this past week, I loved that so many people told me what a wonderful time they had. I wish I could have felt the depth of that experience with them instead of standing on the side the entire time. I’m sure the little details would have worked themselves out regardless of my constant scrutiny.
Taking my own medicine, I should have practiced my famous “Outsmart Your Brain” formula:
1. Relax (you have to breathe and release the tension in your body if you want to release your mind)
2. Detach (let go of being the one who has to make everything “just right”)
3. Center (focus on your point of strength just below your navel)
4. Focus (choose the emotion you want to feel and let it flow through your body)
When I practice this formula and choose joy, gratitude or happiness to flow into my bones, I can’t help but be present to what is wonderful in the moment.
I hope you enjoy your day!