Judgment takes up real estate in your brain. Your working memory has limited capacity. When you are judging others or yourself, you are limiting your creativity. You are also decreasing your sense of humor and fun.
When you negatively judge someone, you can barely hear what they have to say.
Tip #1 Take in and release your breath slowly to clear your mind.
You might find the person who is annoying you isn’t that difficult after all.
Tip #2. Let go of what you thought would happen.
You have expectations. Then something else happens. Ask yourself, “What is true about my situation?” If you choose to work with what is happening now, whether you like it or not, you will probably find a way to make it work for you.
Tip #3 Take an appreciative perspective.
Instead of judging, focus on what you are grateful for in the situation. Listen with curiosity to the person you are with to see if they have a good idea after all.
When you judge yourself, you make it harder to do better. Acting coach Gary Austin insists, “It’s none of your business what people think of you.” He says your business is to give 100% to what you are trying to accomplish. “For every moment you give to thinking about how someone is judging you, you are detracting from your best performance.” Or as they say on the P90X exercise discs, “Do your best and forget the rest.”
Tip #4 Acknowledge yourself for showing up today and trying even if you didn’t achieve what you had hoped for.
Tip #5 When all else fails, laugh.
Take your work seriously. Take yourself lightly. Everyone else fall in the middle.
You choose the lens you see the world through. If you are going to judge, make it a positive evaluation.