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Here comes the judge.
In my doctoral research, I found that many high achieving women have a hard time allowing others to be who they are. They judge people based on their own high standards and tend to critically view work that is done differently than they would have done it. In other words, "There is only one right answer and it is mine."
Yet in life, we know there is often more than one
Define your brand of human
When people you know see you, their brains react to the file they keep in their memory of who you are. Unfortunately, the negative words often direct people's reactions to you before the positive ones. "There's Jane," says the brain. "She's a smart, passionate driver who never lets up. Quick...hide behind the copy machine."
Do you know how people see you? Try this exercise by Lesley Everett, a personal branding
The burden of confidence
In my teleseminar with Susan Falter Barnes (you can hear it at http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WMsbdQ2k), she asked if all passionate, driven women are overwhelmed. We talked about childhood drivers, like trying to please dad or trying not to be mom. After the call, I went back to my research.
I found that due to the
You are how you read
There is a great article at The Atlantic.com called Is Google Making Us Stupid?
One point stood out for me...how your read demonstrates how you are leading your life.
Do you indulge in a good read, taking your time to absorb the words as well as to reflect on the meaning? Or do you, like me, scan for key words and get to the end
Who is Chasing You?
Recently, a coach told me that my parents abused me.
She didn't mean I was physically abused. She didn't mean I was psychologically abused through demeaning words or behavior.
She said I was abused because the my parents gave me their love on a conditional basis. The condition was that I would excel at everything I do.
Now I do believe my parents loved me. However, after a long debate, I opened up
My motivation
There have been times in my life where I was called self-serving. Generally, this happened when I held a leadership position. Although I felt my decisions and commitment were based on a passion for accepting challenges that would make a difference in people's lives, others saw me as a power-grabbing self-promoter.
The first time this happened, I was president of the International Coach Federation. I was so honored to be in
I hate the word “crone”
One of the hardest transitions I have had to make is going from being the center of attention to coaching and inspiring others to stand in the light of admiration. Not that I have totally given up center stage. Yet I now see that my purpose is truly in passing the baton.
I am in Panama teaching a leadership class. On the second day, four of the strongest women in the class
You cannot lead an ordinary life.
Last week's ER episode had a great message for passionate, driven women (yes, I am still watching ER).
Neela, the brilliant British-Indian woman who is finishing her surgical rotation, seemed distracted and close to tears all day.
At the end of the day in the break room, she has a melt down, saying "I can't do this anymore." She may seem like she is holding it together on the outside, but inside,
BLINDSPOTS: When strengths become weakne...
In my research, I found the high-achieving women in the workplace to be:
Quick thinkers.
Solution finders.
Action-oriented, meaning work always gets done on time or before expected.
Opinionated, and can argue well for what they believe.
Passionate.
Appreciative of recognition and respect for their work and their ideas.
For every strength, there is a blindspot. Can you find yours in each of the strengths named above?
One of my clients realized
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