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Stopping the leak of power
There was a great scene in Grey's Anatomy last night that I thought characterized the changes many women are experiencing. With no real guidance, and under the threat of losing love, we are starting to say "NO" to giving ourselves away, including our power, our energy, and our passion. Yet, this isn't easy.
The scene focused on Christina Yang telling her boyfriend about her near-marriage experience. She described her relationship as
What’s your cause?
Instead of writing goals this year, can you define your cause? Goals create actions which might have an effect. Causes create effects, making the goals that arise more fluid, adaptable and meaningful.
St. Thomas Aquinas wrote:
I have a cause.
We need those, don't we?
Otherwise the darkness and the cold gets in
and everything starts to
ache.
My soul has a purpose, it is
to love.
If I
do not fulfill
my heart's vocation,
I suffer.
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What inside your heart is asking
Five tips for detaching from judgment
Judgment takes up real estate in your brain. Your working memory has limited capacity. When you are judging others or yourself, you are limiting your creativity. You are also decreasing your sense of humor and fun.
When you negatively judge someone, you can barely hear what they have to say.
Tip #1 Take in and release your breath slowly to clear your mind.
You might find the person who is annoying you isn’t
Really…women are less happy?
There has been a lot of press around the research that prompted Marcus Buckingham's latest book, Find Your Strongest Life: What the Happiest and Most Successful Women do Differently. The studies declare women to be less happier than they were 40 years ago.
Really, less happy than my mother? I don't think so.
I believe the research is flawed in that it uses happiness as a general rating without breaking down the
Book Review: The Influence Puzzle
I've said this before...the leader sets the emotional tone. The leader in a room is the person with social dominance, not just a title. The energy you put out as a leader either uplifts or downgrades the climate in the room, even more than your words.
On this note, Valerie Williams has been coaching and teaching executives how to be powerfully present for years. She just launched a great new book
Celebrate with me!
I just signed a contract with a major publisher to publish a book for high-achieving women based on my research and the Burden of Greatness.
I'll share pieces of the pages with you as I go along. I know I'll use some of these posts. Please comment whenever you feel the urge when share thoughts with you; I could use your insights.
Thank you for your support.
We are more alike in what we aren’...
A number of you shared your results from the VIA Signature Strengths Questionnaire on www.AuthenticHappiness.com. Thank you.
What I found so amazing was how we were all so similar in what was at the bottom of the list, even more so than what was on top. In other words, high-achieving women may value different things in life. Yet we are similar in what is not so
Needing someone doesn’t make you n...
I have a friend who's relationship was rocky for years. She is a powerful executive coach who is asked to speak on leadership world-wide. When she met her boyfriend, he was the marketing VP for a well-known global corporation. During their relationship, he moved on to creating his own consultancy. Their travels and changes in their lives made for a bumpy relationship.
Once, while visiting my friend, we made a quick
What do you do when you can’t lead...
I took my partner, Karl, to Kauai for his 50th birthday. We celebrated by standing at the top of a 800-foot waterfall. Fabulous!! Yet hiking to that spot, and on a slippery trail on the Na Pali coast, I had a chance to observe some of my quirky high-achiever behavior.
While hiking, when I am in front I tend to hike at a fast clip, maybe too fast since I'm pretty
Perfectly authentic
One of the facts about many high-achieving women that boggles me is around the concept of perfection. I generally see high-achievers as risk takers. Yet if you are a true perfectionist, you will probably avoid doing things you can't do well. Or if you discover you can't do it well, you give up trying.
This might work for a few things like biochemistry or extreme sports. But what about dancing? Or
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