Can you define ‘easy?’
I agreed to go mountain biking this morning on a course the woman defined as ‘easy.’ I fell behind in the sand traps but knew the shortcut that would help me catch up. When I finally spotted the group, they were heading up a steep hill.
I decided to find my own ‘easy’ trail that would be much more enjoyable on this glorious Arizona Sunday in January.
What is easy to one person if often difficult for the next. I am physically fit but not race-ready. I like a good challenge but I know my limits.
This made me wonder how many times I expect others to meet my standard of ‘easy’ and if I judge their effort when they decline riding up my hill.
I don’t know if anyone judged me for taking another path. The day was so beautiful it was easy for me to let go of worrying about what they thought of me. Would I do the same if someone asked me to do something difficult and unpleasant at work? Do I say ‘no’ with ease and grace when it comes to a mental challenge?
What about you? Do you hold others to your standards without considering their needs and talents? Do you take on undesirable jobs then resent others for putting you up to the task?
Awareness is the first long step toward change. Life can be easier if we become more conscious about our choices and our judgments.
Oh my goodness, Marcia…this is so true! If only I had a dime for every time in my personal history I told a staff member or friend “this will be so fun!” only to find out the only one who found any degree of satisfaction in the task was…me! Good for you for defining your own terms. (I will reread this blog before I go skiing next time!) and for reminding us that perspective is, indeed, everything! Happy New Year!! Here’s to defining and blazing our own trails!!
Very interesting post, Marcia!
I tend to be surprised when others can’t or aren’t interested in achieving my particular (high) standards, yet I often beat myself up when I can’t hold myself up to those of others.
Greetings from one mountain biker to another!
