I have been asked many times, “Is it bad for a woman to be a wanderer.” My answer is, “No and yes.”
No, you shouldn’t let any societal rites, the “good intentions” of friends, or the latest study stop you from exploring, seeking to learn from your vast experiences and taking risks to discover what else you can achieve in this lifetime.
Yes, if you jump around too many times–from job to job, relationship to relationship, house to house–you can lose your sense of purpose and possibly, your sense of self.
I was telling my friend Larry Ackerman, author of The Identity Code, that it was time for me to return to my roots in my business. I had been dancing all over the map in the last ten years with little focus. If you ask me for my “elevator pitch,” I would lapse into a “deer in the headlights” look.
Then I told Larry about my trip to China and how my hosts were astonished that I didn’t focus my business on coach training and the “heart connection” I was teaching them to have. China is a cognitive culture. Their prior coach training kept them in their heads. For many of my students, it was the first time they trusted themselves enough to let go of “knowing” so they could connect at a deeper level.
I used to teach these skills in my first years in business. I still teach them among other things in my leadership training. I always slide coaching and connecting into my emotional intelligence training. I believe that my practice of “heart connection” or emotional coherence as I’m finding it called in the latest brain research, is at the core of my success.
So even though I will continue to share Wander Woman insights with audiences live and online, I want to explore how to return to my business roots.
That’s when Larry said, “Of course it is time to come home. You’ve been on an odyssey where after many adventures, you take your wisdom and go home. In Homer’s epic poem, The Odyssey, the Greek hero Odysseus (or Ulysses, as he was known in Roman mythology) encounters a number of adventures before he returns home. The same is true for you. Your work will be so much richer now.”
My gut confirmed his conclusion.
What about you? Are you planning another journey this year, another stop on an island to gather knowledge, strength and experiences? Or is it time to head home?
- What have the adventures of the last decade taught you?
- What great gift, talent or perspective was your “once-shining star” that you set aside? Is it time to bring it forth in a new light?
- If you are not ready to go home, what else do you want to experience? Know what you want so you don’t wander aimlessly.
I am grateful for Larry’s insights. It feels good to be home. And I’m having fun remodeling my business home to reflect the new decade. When I’m ready, I’ll invite you to the Open House.