One of the facts about many high-achieving women that boggles me is around the concept of perfection. I generally see high-achievers as risk takers. Yet if you are a true perfectionist, you will probably avoid doing things you can’t do well. Or if you discover you can’t do it well, you give up trying.
This might work for a few things like biochemistry or extreme sports. But what about dancing? Or speaking a foreign language? Or taking an improv class?
The most humiliating experience I ever had was when I attended my first improv acting class. I attended a week-long camp in the woods in New York. I fumbled and mumbled through every scene and hid out from my fellow campers in the evening. Yet it ended up being one of the best things I have ever done for myself.
Not only did I live through this nightmare, I met an acting coach who gave me back myself in it’s entirety (not just the parts I knew I was good at). Her name is Carol Fox Prescott. She brought me back in touch with the silly, sexy, loving woman that I had lost contact with in all my years of being the perfect achiever. I found that when I am not perfect in front of thousands, I am perfectly authentic.
What are you missing because the first few times you tried it you didn’t think it was much fun (the most common rationalization for fearing failure or humiliation)? What won’t you try because you don’t think you’ll be good at it? What holds you back from learning something new?
If you have a story of “getting past looking silly” to find your joy, please share it. We could all use the support.