I had the opportunity to sit at the feet of the teacher and author of The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz and his incredibly wise son, don Jose, at the Conversations Among Masters conference for coaches last week. I have pages of notes that I feel I can review over and over as I work to see the world from their eyes.
Here are a few of the moments of truth they shared with us:
- We are intelligent beings astute at creating excuses for not remembering what we know.
- Every human is an artist. We create our lives every day. We are angry, depressed and frustrated when we think we can’t create. Instead of striving to end your suffering, what will shift you into feeling creative?
- Truth exists with or without us. We don’t create it; we see it when we choose to clear away the fog of fear and the superstitions someone told us to believe. Then open your heart with love before you ask the question, “What do I know to be true, really?”
- Change who you believe you are and your world and the story you tell about it changes.
- We should not tell other people what their story should be. Instead, inspire them to be their own beautiful story.
- Your physical body is a biological machine. It gets sick, it breaks down, it is attacked by viruses and bacteria and it eventually dies. The only thing you are responsible for is to stay as healthy as you can. You did not attract and are not responsible for everything else that happens by nature. But remember… What happens in your body is truth. How you deal with it—what happens in your mind—is choice.
- The best you can do in relationships is to respect others and do not tell lies. This goes for how parents should relate to their children as well.
- Celebrate life. Your heart is drumming in this celebration. Let your mind sing in harmony to the beat.
- Do not mourn death. If you are around someone dying, they will most likely ask you to stay happy and appreciate the life you have. Honor their request.
And my favorite insight from the day…
10. As a coach and teacher, I am responsible for what I tell you. I am not responsible for what you understand.
You may have heard most of these pearls from someone along the way. Yet, as don Miguel said, we brilliantly forget what we know. So when your intelligent brain works against you, what will you do to remember?
Please post here the bits of wisdom you have heard or read that you love and what you do to remember to live by them.